I usually reserve my blog for ideas, tips, and tricks on parenting. However, I realize that there's so much more that goes into being a parent. Every aspect of what I go through on a daily basis leads into the choices that I make as a parent. I thought it would be good to share what I am going through and how I am handling it.
Some days I am a giant ball of anxiety and depression. Those days I don't want to do anything more than curl up on the couch in a hoodie and a fuzzy blanket. These are also the days that I work the hardest at being a mom. I push my feelings and thoughts of negativity aside for them. I think this is where I make a mistake. Yes, it's good for me to push through for the kids and make them my priority. However, if I don't come back and deal with how I am feeling and take care of myself; my depression and anxiety will only get worse. I need to make the time to take care of myself and to work through the things that weigh me down.
As parents, we put so much stress on ourselves. The stress to provide the kids with what they need. The stress to give them a happy life. The stress of giving them enjoyable memories. We spend so much time focusing on what we aren't doing and forget to live in the moment. Later, we stress over not living in the moment. Living each day stressing over the next ruins the experience of living your best life. We spend so much time focusing on making the next day, the next week, the next year better. We forget to enjoy the time that we have.
I've always told my kids to find a positive in every experience. I've told them to enjoy every day for what it is, no matter what happened. While I do believe this for the most part, I think that some days just suck. Those are the days that we struggle to find the positive vibes to push through. We forget our reason and focus on the negativity of the situation. Even though the negative times in our lives push us to work harder, be stronger, and do better. It doesn't make them suck any less.
How do we over come this? How can we make it through the dark times? If there was an easy solution or quick pro tip we would all do it. I survived cancer and went through chemo with less stress, anxiety and depression than I do going through my day to day life. How? By making a plan. By making daily goals that lead to my ultimate goal of going home to my kids and being healthy. By journaling and talking about everything that was stressing me out. Why is that having cancer and going through what's supposed to be hardest battle of my life is easier than the struggles of everyday? It's because cancer has an end game, a plan, set dates and times that every thing is going to happen. If something does go wrong then plan changes and a new plan goes into action.
So, my goal is to do just that. Set goals, dates, and times to achieve what needs to be done. To be realistic in my goals and realize that just like during my battle I will have set backs. I will have to make new plans and adjust. I will have to stop beating myself up over what I can't do or couldn't be done and focus on my end goal. I will have to question my process and journal exactly what works and what doesn't. Keeping myself on track by ensuring that even bad days show us how to get to good ones.
Pain is the road to getting stronger. The ups and downs of life will shape us into who we are supposed to be.
Thursday, May 23, 2019
Tuesday, April 2, 2019
Teaching Our Children Love and Understanding of Humanity
From the second we open our eyes and draw our first breath of life, we learn. All we know at that moment is the love and warmth of the person holding us. That feeling should be our driving force in life. However, sometimes this is not the case. In a world of darkness and hate, we should always be our children's guiding light. They follow our lead and learn to do as we do. We have to teach them what is right, even if it means putting aside our own emotions. As we grow, we learn the ways of the world. We see the beauty and ugliness and it begins to shape our opinions.
Kids are not born seeing things the way adults do. They see everyone equally, as we all should. They don't see the color of someones skin, religion, or sexuality. They see a person, another human being just like them. This is what we should allow them to believe. No matter our feelings. Children should be allowed to form their own opinions through life experiences. We shouldn't teach them to trust everyone. That's a different story. Understanding isn't blind trust. Instead, teach them to have a general respect for everyone that they meet. They shouldn't look at a person and judge them based on that. They should learn to get to know people and judge them based on who they are as a whole. Kids shouldn't know the hatred of the world. They should be able to go through life with a positive outlook. They should be able to make friends with other kids and enjoy their childhood.
As a child my house was a cultural melting pot. My parents came from very different backgrounds. My mother came from a Native American background with her father being part Irish. My father came from Czech and Polish immigrant parents. When I was young my mother married a Hispanic man and I was able to learn a whole new culture and language. My mother had a respect for everyone and taught us to be the same. She would take us to multi-cultural events and invited people to share their life lessons with us. She taught us to love everyone and be there for those who need us regardless of their background.
As a a parent, I strive to teach my children all the ways of the world. I teach my children about the different cultures and religions of the world. We have friends and family in different religions, cultures, and sexual orientations. Our kids are constantly questioning everything and want to learn more and more. I work to get them to understand the world in its entirety. We invite people to share their experiences and lives with us. We have learned various religions and cultures and begun to incorporate different things into our lives.
Kids should be able to see the beauty in all things. They should be able to have a positive outlook on life. They should be able to make friends based on someone being a good person. They shouldn't look down upon another person because they don't believe the same things. They should be able to use it as another opportunity to learn. They should treat all people equally. Kids are the most beautiful beings on Earth when they have a pure heart. Let's work together to change the heart of the world by raising children without the hate of the world.
Kids are not born seeing things the way adults do. They see everyone equally, as we all should. They don't see the color of someones skin, religion, or sexuality. They see a person, another human being just like them. This is what we should allow them to believe. No matter our feelings. Children should be allowed to form their own opinions through life experiences. We shouldn't teach them to trust everyone. That's a different story. Understanding isn't blind trust. Instead, teach them to have a general respect for everyone that they meet. They shouldn't look at a person and judge them based on that. They should learn to get to know people and judge them based on who they are as a whole. Kids shouldn't know the hatred of the world. They should be able to go through life with a positive outlook. They should be able to make friends with other kids and enjoy their childhood.
As a child my house was a cultural melting pot. My parents came from very different backgrounds. My mother came from a Native American background with her father being part Irish. My father came from Czech and Polish immigrant parents. When I was young my mother married a Hispanic man and I was able to learn a whole new culture and language. My mother had a respect for everyone and taught us to be the same. She would take us to multi-cultural events and invited people to share their life lessons with us. She taught us to love everyone and be there for those who need us regardless of their background.
As a a parent, I strive to teach my children all the ways of the world. I teach my children about the different cultures and religions of the world. We have friends and family in different religions, cultures, and sexual orientations. Our kids are constantly questioning everything and want to learn more and more. I work to get them to understand the world in its entirety. We invite people to share their experiences and lives with us. We have learned various religions and cultures and begun to incorporate different things into our lives.
Kids should be able to see the beauty in all things. They should be able to have a positive outlook on life. They should be able to make friends based on someone being a good person. They shouldn't look down upon another person because they don't believe the same things. They should be able to use it as another opportunity to learn. They should treat all people equally. Kids are the most beautiful beings on Earth when they have a pure heart. Let's work together to change the heart of the world by raising children without the hate of the world.
Tuesday, January 8, 2019
When I started my blog and eventually my YouTube channel, I did it to inform people and de-stress. After starting back to work I realize how much work it takes in order to keep it all going. I have notes and ideas all over my phone and journal. I just need to find the time to sit down and get them written all out. I appreciate those who stick by me while I keep this going. Thanks to those who reached out to check on me as well. I should have new content out soon. 😁
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